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Building A Friend Group as an Adult Master Plan:
- Leave the apartment door open, a la Bruno Mars and Anderson .Paak.
- Wait for fellow neighbors to wander in.
- BOOM, social life.
(If only it were that simple.)
Making friends as an adult can be a daunting task. You’re no longer in college where there’s a built-in group of friends in your dorm hall or classes, so it can be tough to find people who share your interests.
But don’t worry – with a bit of effort, you can make lifelong friends as an adult. Here are some tips:
Where to make friends as an adult
1. Get involved around your city
This is a great way to meet people with similar interests. Join a club, go to sporting events, or sign up for intramural athletics. Many cities have tons of events & clubs taking place each week, and you can find them on websites like Meetups.com.
Examples of groups that you can join on Meetup.com include Crypto, Public Speaking, Anime Meetup groups, Cooking groups and so much more! You’re bound to find something you resonate with.
2. Go to parties!
Chances are there’s at least one friend or a friend of a friend or coworker who can invite you to a party or two. Parties are great to help you meet plenty of people at once without having to worry about finding a common interest.
And if you meet someone who isn’t quite your type, chances are there will be other people at the party who are more your speed. Pro tip — polish off a party trick in advance:
- Do a handstand.
- Memorize the NBA Champions from every year since 1952.
- Solve a Rubik’s blindfolded with one hand.
- All three at the same time.
(Just kidding, you don’t need to do any of these. But should you? Absolutely.)
3. Attend local events and activities.
There are probably a TON of things going on in your area that you might just not know about without doing a bit of research. Do some googling and find things like upcoming:
- Local sports games
- Art shows and museums in the area
- City events like fairs and festivals
4. Hang out in popular spots in your city.
This is a great way to meet people who are also looking to make friends. Here are some options:
- Dog parks (maybe only if you actually have a dog)
- Local bars or coffee shops
- Apartment common area
- Popular restaurants
5. Start a conversation with someone at your local coffee shop or bar!
This can be tough, but it’s the best way to get to know someone and start a friendship with someone who might live near you.
Some conversation starters that you can use are:
- What’s your go-to order here?
- Is this your favorite spot in the area or do you have any other recommendations?
- How is your day going?
- What’s your favorite thing to do on the weekends?
- Do you think Thanos had a point?
6. Join a gym or workout class
Working out is a great way to relieve stress and make friends — not to mention stay healthy. You can make friends with people who work out at the same time as you and hopefully, you might be able to plan a study session or go to a local restaurant together after hitting up the gym or a class.
Other ways to make friends as an adult
7. Use social media.
If you’re not the party type, or if there just isn’t anything going on at your school, social media can be a great way to meet people. There are plenty of groups and pages around almost every possible interest you can think of, and it’s a great way to connect with people from all over your city, the entire country (or even the world).
- Facebook Groups
- Instagram Accounts
- Reddit Pages
8. Get a pet!
Okay, don’t get a pet just to make friends — that’s like getting married just so you can file taxes together. But having a pet can help you meet people.
If you don’t have a pet, see if any of your neighbors or coworkers do and ask to go over to their house anytime they take care of it (or vice versa). This way, you can get to know other people who like animals and make good company outside of class or the party scene.
You can also meet people at your local dog park or cat cafe!
9. Take advantage of free time
Don’t just sit in your apartment alone when you have free time — go outside, walk around your city, visit the library, take a trip to museums or galleries around you (bonus points if you get there via Mission Impossible wire from the ceiling), or try something new.
You never know who you might meet! And it’s good to keep yourself busy so that you don’t resort back to binge-watching Grey’s Anatomy for three hours every day.
10. Join an online dating service or other apps.
This one might be a little controversial, but it’s a great way to meet people who you wouldn’t normally meet. Especially in a socially-distanced world, this is a great option for many. Just be careful and make sure that you trust the person before giving out any personal information! (Remember, fish pics are welcome — everyone loves them, no matter what they say).
There are also options like Bumble BFF that are purely for finding friendships!
Some General Tips For Making New Friends
Don’t try to be someone you’re not — people will see through that and it won’t make for a very lasting friendship. Besides, you’re awesome already. Just be yourself and you’ll find that others will like you for who you are.
Have an open mind.
A lot of your potential friends will be nothing like your high school friends, but that shouldn’t throw you off. This is the best time in your life to make new friends from different walks of life and experiences.
Start Making Friends As An Adult Today!
Making friends requires conscious effort, but it doesn’t have to be hard. If you actively try and put yourself out there, you’ll make some new best friends in no time!
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Why is it so hard for me to make friends as an adult?
There can be a lot of reasons why it’s hard for you to make friends as an adult, especially if you recently moved to a new city. You might be feeling homesick, socially anxious or just don’t know where to start. Don’t worry — everyone feels this way at some point.
Is it normal to have no friends as an adult?
It’s definitely normal to feel like you have no friends in this new phase of life. Just be patient and put yourself out there by using some of these tips– you’ll make some soon enough!
Is it normal to be lonely as an adult?
It’s definitely normal to feel lonely as an adult. A lot of people feel this way, especially after moving to a new city or when your friends move away after college. Don’t worry – you’re not alone! The internet can be a great place to find like-minded people when you’re feeling lonely.
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